Today I sit…

This morning I got on the scale and was pleasantly surprised to see it had gone down…almost effortlessly. I am eating breakfast and then really nothing until dinner, mostly because I am not thinking about it. I am busy. I am filling my moments with job searches, conversations, etc. and not thinking about eating all the time. Success one.

Yesterday, I had a lot of running around. Today too. That’s a good thing; its a distraction. I also spoke to an Executive coach and he was…inspiring. And, not that I needed it, but he gave me permission to just – sit. Sit with my thoughts. Sit with my feelings. Sit with my anxiety. Sit with my fear. Thats a hard one. My immediate reaction is always “whats next?” and spring into action, but maybe its time to do it differently. Maybe thats the only way I am going to figure out what I truly want to do. He said so many smart things, I am still processing. One of my favorites though was about purpose, profits and passion…determining which of those three really fill my tank. Purpose and passion feel so linked for me, its hard to differentiate. Even though money is for sure the “nice to have”, it doesnt get me out of bed in the morning and ultimately, isnt that what its all about? What is going to get you out of bed each day?

So today, I got up at 630, got a shower. I am going to put on a little makeup and start my day. Im going to read my devotionals. Read more of my man Steve Harvey’s book. And just sit in my jumble of thoughts…no action will be taken to find a job, not today. Today, I am sitting.


Woah, that word sucks ass. Unemployed. I am going to have to move quickly and remedy this situation. Im the kind of person who likes structure. The more time I have, the more time I waste!

I’ve been doing pretty good about using my mornings to focus on the job hunt and I am keeping my snacking to a minimum. Right now I am doing a lot of running around and my norm is to go through drivethrus but I am not doing that so that I can save some money. I really am trying to focus on the silver lining. Some days easier than others…its been one week today. I have basically until mid-August to find something otherwise, my insurance lapses.

The main thing is, I really dont know what Im looking for…actually, I do know what I am looking for but I dont know what to call it. I am a really good people manager. I am also good at facilitating conversations and helping people adjust, adapt and embrace change. I have people that have worked for me before, that would follow me to any job if I asked them to. I know I am an asset, I just struggle with how to package that and do something I love instead of just something that pays the bills. Wouldnt that be amazing? To do something you love and be able to live on it?

I just want to be happy, is that so hard?


Putting a plan together…

You know when you get so overwhelmed that you just start spinning in circles? I am in full on spin. I have given up on my diet, almost completely. We’ve already talked about how out of control I am there…and now professionally, I am starting my spin. Between my personal and professional lives, I am getting whiplash. I keep going back and forth between staying with what I know or “taking the path less traveled” (nod to Robert Frost). I know its only been since Tuesday so I have some time to figure it all out, but I feel so much pressure to put a plan together.

I feel like I can’t tackle all of it at once and if I don’t get my professional shit together, my personal shit wont matter because ultimately, I will be living in a box and wont be able to afford to eat so that will solve that! Oh wait, so that feels like a plan! Wouldn’t it be funny if that’s the real deal? Maybe not so funny.

I am starting to formulate a plan of action. My first one was to declutter. To take advantage of having some downtime and tackle some of the things that I was putting off until I take some vacation time…well since I am on this forced vacation, no time like the present. So today I am cleaning out my home office. I also have all the shit from my Citi office in the garage that I need to deal with…ok, one thing at a time, the spin is real, y’all. Again, for today, my plan is this office.

Today, I will organize my office. I will pay my bills. I will complete both of these tasks. Yes, that is me trying to convince myself.

Figuring it all out…

I wish I had a magic 8 ball that would truly tell me the future. Losing my job has pushed me into decision making mode about what to do with my life…and honestly, I don’t know if I am ready. I have always been one of those people that just…well, landed. When I was a kid, I never wanted to “be” anything when I grew up; not like the other kids. And that kind of played out as an adult, I just drifted, but I have always been so fortunate and landed in the right place at the right time. Even my last job, when I was laid off from BofA, I found a new job within 30 days at Citi. In both cases, I didn’t have mortgage experience but my leadership skills carried me in. I want to have faith that what I bring to the table now will also carry me somewhere. Just where?

As long as I was Citi, I really didn’t have to think about what I wanted to do next. As much as I hated my job, I was comfortable; I was making a decent wage and for the most part, I knew what I needed to do. I had a great team of guys that I liked working with and I think they liked working with me too so unless someone pushed me, I probably wasn’t going to jump. So they pushed.

I love managing a team and you know what? I’m good at it. As much as I say all the time that I don’t like people, I’m pretty fortunate that people like me.

So all in all, I’m still doing ok after being laid off, but now I have to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Talk about a push!

So I was laid off today. I didn’t expect it at all…I’m probably a bit numb but I think I’m ok. I live paycheck to paycheck so I need a job and I need it soon but I’m remarkably zen about it. I’ll probably jump off a cliff tomorrow but today I’m good.

I have hated my job for a long time. I have felt like it was slowly killing me…I guess someone felt like I needed a push. Now what?


I have none. Personally nor professionally. At least that’s the way I’m acting. I act as if I don’t want success and I don’t want to be a contributing member of society. Nothing could be further from the truth. I want so much more for myself than what I’m demonstrating.

There is this old saying (adage? -is there a difference) that if you bargain for life with a penny, that’s all you’ll get back. Honestly, I fucking owe the universe money. I’m definitely not living up to my potential.

I’m in a job that I hate. It sucks the life out of me on the daily…but I’m grateful to have one. I am in a body that is so mad at me, it’s attacking itself (Hashimotos, Vitiligo, Lupus, seriously, what else?)! I’m pretty sure I have a new hernia. And still I get fatter every day.

I don’t want a pill that makes me thin. I want a pill that makes me WANT it so bad that I actually do it. Someone fucking wake me up.

Cycle of destruction…

Almost every day I wake up and think, today is the day. Today is the day that my thinking shifts and I make it happen. And then I have pizza for breakfast (like I am doing right now). Being a compulsive overeater is like having a secret job. You have to find ways to fit in the snacks, extra meals, extra snacks and do it all without anyone noticing. Nah, they wont notice the extra fifty pounds Ive gained only eating healthy. Nah, the wont notice all the wrappers and shit I stuff in the bottom of the trash can or hide with other crap. Nah, they wont notice that I never have any money to do anything at all because I am spending it on garbage food. Honestly, it truly is the definition of insanity. Every time I wake up and think today is the day; I go to bed thinking “tomorrow is the day.” When will I break this cycle?

Yesterday I had the perfect day. Not a carb entered my mouth. Then, at 830 pm, I had Dark Cherry Chocolate ice cream. A big ol mug full. And it was fucking delicious. So this morning Im eating pizza. I am heading to St Louis today for work. And I will be on a per diem so I get to eat on someone else’s money. Fuggedaboutit.

I feel like Margaret…”Are you there God, its me, Jeanine” except instead of asking for boobies and a womanly figure and mindset, I am asking for HELP. Help to break this cycle of destruction.

I recently became an Independent Distributor for SeneGence; the people who make LipSense – I did it because ONE, I love their products and TWO, I need a distraction. I am super lonely and I eat out of boredom. So maybe if I can create a small business for myself that is so time consuming, I can leave compulsive eating behind….wouldnt that be a miracle? I went to a training session on Saturday and one of the many wonderful quotes I picked up was “Push through the negative to the JOY”…can I do that? Can I really find my JOY?